When someone poses the question, "How are you doing?" we often reply with a casual "Hi, thanks, I'm OK, and how are you?" Similarly, we're frequently asked, "Or kya chal raha hai aajkal?" to which we respond with, "Bas badhiya. Tum sunao?" Then, conversation moves on to other topics.
But here's the thing: how many of us genuinely care about others' well-being when we ask, and how many honestly answer? Rarely, if we're being honest. It's a realization that not everyone has the time to truly listen to each person we encounter, but it doesn't excuse our tendency to brush off those inquiries. Paying close attention, we often overlook the voices of both acquaintances and strangers alike.
Consider how often you've truly listened to your ten-year-old's story, or genuinely asked a friend about their mental and emotional state. How frequently have you responded to your parents' ailments with genuine concern? And when you've been struggling, how often did anyone notice your silence?
Think about that feeling when you crave connection, but your contact list offers no one with whom you can share your vulnerabilities.
We fill our social media with long posts about mental health, yet feel annoyed when someone calls for a chat. We disregard messages from those who may not offer us anything tangible, leaving them waiting for replies for days, weeks, or even months, only to brush it off with excuses of busyness.
We've all heard the quote attributed to Anne Frank: "Dead people receive more flowers than living people because regret outweighs gratitude." It's a reminder that often, those who mourn most at funerals are those who never celebrated life with the departed.
What's more valuable than a person's life? How can we claim ignorance when someone reaches out in distress? We wonder why someone didn't seek help before it's too late, yet ignore the signs and messages they send.
The concept of self-love has become so ingrained that we've become self-centered, unable to see beyond our own dramas. What happened to looking out for one another? What happened to empathy?
Humans were deemed God's most beautiful creation for a reason. We possess the ability to communicate, comfort, and support each other. Yet, instead of uplifting, we criticize, ignore, and turn away from those in need.
It takes little effort to exchange a smile, to inquire about someone's well-being, or to simply offer a listening ear over a cup of coffee or tea. Let's remember our capacity for empathy and kindness, and strive to be there for each other, not just physically, but mentally and emotionally as well.
interesting blog, nice and clear thought that Author have expressed in the vlog.
ReplyDeletehowever, I agree with it to a limit only and after one point my thoughts give me a different point of view. I believe each one of us have defined priorities of life and people who come first gets priority in our life over other, they could be any one parents, sibling, friends, love interest etc.
even if we do not meet them for years we just get the feeling how the person is actually feeling.. even through the tone of the text of the person. and yes we do go step ahead and ask them the for that. on other hand those who are not this high on our priority list may get slightly less attention and those who do not matter to us, we don't even care what they going through even though they are pouring their heart amongst us. we just be there for presence but not with soul and attention.
yes this is us the human, we are pretty and gentle for our loved ones but yet cruel and harsh for those we don't love/care
I would definitely be more attentive to such signs in future. Thanks for the reminder.
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